5 More Reflections to Calm Your Mind & Enrich Your Life — Part 2/2

In Part One of this series, we explored how our minds can mislead us through prediction, emotions, and identity. This second post turns to motivation, survival, and the daily practice of happiness.

If you’ve ever waited for the “right moment” to begin something, you know how unreliable thoughts and feelings can be as guides. For a long time, I told myself, “I’ll start once I feel ready.” But readiness rarely came. What finally shifted things for me was realising that action often creates the emotion I was waiting for. The "doing" came first, the feeling followed.

Here are five more reflections to lean on when life feels heavy.

1. Behaviour Influences Feelings

We often assume feelings come first and behaviour follows. Yet the opposite is just as true: what you do shapes how you feel.

Think about exercise. You may begin reluctantly, but by the end you feel more alive. Or consider calling a friend when you’re low. The act of reaching out shifts your state of mind.

Behaviour is a lever we can pull, even when emotions resist.

2. Motivation Is Unreliable

Waiting for motivation can keep you stuck. It’s fickle: here one day, gone the next. Instead of relying on inspiration, build small, repeatable habits.

When routine holds the structure, you don’t need to negotiate with your mood. The feelings often catch up once you’re already moving.

3. Action Generates Emotion

Sometimes you must begin before you feel ready. Start the difficult email. Step outside for a five-minute walk. Open the project you’ve been avoiding.

Often, the simple act of moving forward produces the very calm, relief, or confidence you thought you needed beforehand.

4. Your Brain Is Built for Survival, Not Happiness

Our ancestors survived by scanning for threats, replaying mistakes, and preparing for worst-case scenarios. That ancient system is still active in your brain today.

So, when your mind replays arguments or imagines disasters, it’s not proof that you’re broken.

No, it’s your survival wiring doing its job! Recognising this can help you hold those loops more lightly.

5. Happiness Is a Practice

Left unchecked, the mind drifts back to worry. Happiness requires intention. It grows through small practices: gratitude, rest, connection, presence.

Just as muscles strengthen through regular exercise, joy strengthens through regular habits.

Happiness doesn’t arrive by accident. It’s cultivated by practice.

A Closing Thought

These reflections invite you to experiment with small actions, to meet your mind with compassion, and to remember that happiness is something you can grow.

You don’t need perfect motivation or a perfectly calm mind.

What matters is showing up, one choice at a time.

If these reflections resonate, therapy can help you deepen the practice of calm and self-compassion. I’m Stefan Jurgens, a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) in Toronto. I offer online therapy across Ontario, supporting adults through anxiety, burnout, and life transitions. Visit Inner Counsel Psychotherapy to read more or book a free 20-minute consultation to begin your journey.

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