The Overthinking Trap: How to Reclaim Your Inner Wisdom and Thrive
- Stefan Jurgens
- Apr 24
- 3 min read
Overthinking drains our energy and dims our potential. Learn why your mind races, how to reconnect with your innate resilience, and practical ways to trust yourself again. Because you’re already enough.
That Time I Let My Thoughts Hijack My Peace (And What I Learned)
I spent ages drafting a two-paragraph email. Over and over again! “Is this too casual?” “Should I add more?” “What if they think I’m incompetent?”
By the time I hit “send, I was exhausted. Then, they replied within minutes with a breezy “Looks great, thanks!” I’d wasted an hour spiralling into imaginary worst-case scenarios.
Sound familiar? Whether it’s replaying a conversation, agonizing over a choice, or doubting your worth after a setback, overthinking isn’t just a mental habit—it’s a barrier to living fully as you.
Why We Lose Ourselves in the Noise
We’re not flawed for overthinking. It’s human. Our minds are wired to problem-solve, but when fear takes the wheel, thinking becomes a prison. We fixate on:
“Did I do enough?” (Judging our past)
“What if I fail?” (Fearing our future)
But here’s what gets buried: Your inherent capacity to grow, adapt, and find meaning—even in uncertainty. Overthinking isn’t a sign you’re broken. It’s a sign you care deeply… and might need to care for yourself more gently.
The Cost of Living in Your Head
When we treat our thoughts as absolute truth, we lose touch with:
Our intuition: That quiet “knowing” in your gut that needs no justification.
Our humanity: Mistakes aren’t failures—they’re proof you’re daring to try.
The present moment: Life happens now, not in yesterday’s regrets or tomorrow’s “what-ifs.”
The irony? The answers we seek rarely come from more analysis. They come from pausing, breathing, and rediscovering trust in ourselves.
How to Come Home to Yourself
1. Pause and Name the Storm
When thoughts race, gently interrupt them:
“This is my mind trying to protect me. Thank you, but I’m safe right now.”
2. Ground in the Present
Feel your feet: Notice the floor beneath you.
Breathe like you mean it: Inhale for 4, hold for 4, exhale for 6.
Ask: “What’s true in this moment?” (Hint: It’s usually simpler than your mind insists.)
3. Practice Radical Self-Permission
“I don’t need to have all the answers.”
“It’s okay to be a work in progress.”
“My worth isn’t earned through productivity or perfection.”
4. Lean Into “Good Enough”
Send the email at 85% polished.
Have the conversation before you feel “ready.”
Let go of the script and speak from the heart.
Where Hope Lives
Hope isn’t about blind optimism. It’s the quiet understanding that:
You’re stronger than your fears: You’ve survived 100% of your worst days.
Growth is non-linear: Progress is messy, and that’s okay.
Connection heals: Sharing your struggles—even one trusted person—reminds you you’re not alone.
A Gentle Experiment to Start Today
Notice when overthinking arises (e.g., replaying a conversation, doubting a decision).
Pause and breathe — no judgment, just curiosity. Whisper: “This is my mind trying to protect me. I’m safe here.”
Ask: “What’s one tiny step I could take right now that honours both my wisdom and my kindness?”
Example: Instead of “Do the thing!”, try:
"What if I shared this idea at 70% polished instead of 100%?”
“What if I waited 10 minutes before over-editing this text?”
"What if I asked for help instead of pushing through alone?”
Reflect: “Does this step feel aligned with who I want to be? Does it leave room for imperfection?”
Proceed gently — or choose to wait. Either way, celebrate the awareness.
Final Thought:
You are not a problem to be solved. You are a person to be embraced.
If the weight of ‘getting it right’ feels heavy, know that you don’t have to carry it alone. At Inner Counsel Therapy, I partner with individuals to cultivate self-trust, redefine success on their terms, and nurture resilience in the face of perfectionism.
Curious? Let’s chat—book a no-pressure conversation to begin your journey back to yourself.
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